this evening my friend sent me a text saying:
“you know what pisses me off” now i already knew that this easily translates to “you know what i LOVE” lol so i just sent her the bug eyed emoji and waited.
“i follow this girl on Facebook that does hair and her boyfriend and child’s father of 8 years just proposed to her, you know some men are willing to go the extra mile and make you feel like you’re worth all of the bs that you’ve been through over the years!”
this sparked up a lukewarm (i won’t go as far as to say that it got heated) discussion about our outlook on men, and when they choose to propose to the women they’re in relationships with.
if a man loves you and wants to marry you then he will do just that. he won’t wait until he makes a mother out of you and a decade to go by before he decides to spend the rest of his life with you. i used to work at a jewelry store and encountered couples wanting to get married…and let me tell you, i have worked with some men who proposed after 3 weeks and others who were two kids and 12 years in before deciding to settle down. i have always been a firm believer that a man will do exactly what he wants to do, when he wants to do it. so if your boyfriend hasn’t proposed yet, it’s because he hasn’t wanted to bad enough.
a man can want to marry you, but you just never know why they choose to wait. from the initial visit to the jewelry store, to the grandiose spectacle, men are taking a huge step when they decide to propose & there are so many factors to consider when asking yourself “what’s taking him so long?”: age, readiness, and timing just to name a few. not to mention how the men were raised. what if he was raised in a single parent household and never witnessed a healthy working marriage? that may deter him from wanting to pursue that level of commitment. you. just. never. know.
we would LOVE for you to answer this one question:
“how long should it take for a man to propose to a woman?”
comment below 🙂 love & light!!